Rathus Assertiveness Schedule

Most people seem to be more aggressive and assertive than I am.

I have hesitated to make or accept dates because of “shyness.

When the food served at a restaurant is not done to my satisfaction, I complain about it to the waiter or waitress.

I am careful to avoid hurting other people’s feelings, even when I feel that I have been injured.

If a salesperson has gone to considerable trouble to show me merchandise that is not quite suitable, I have a difficult time saying “No.

When I am asked to do something, I insist upon knowing why.

There are times when I look for a good, vigorous argument.

I strive to get ahead as well as most people in my position.

To be honest, people often take advantage of me.

I enjoy starting conversations with new acquaintances and strangers.

I often don’t know what to say to people I find attractive.

I will hesitate to make phone calls to business establishments and institutions.

I would rather apply for a job or for admission to a college by writing letters than by going through with personal interviews.

I find it embarrassing to return merchandise.

If a close and respected relative were annoying me, I would smother my feelings rather than express my annoyance.

I have avoided asking questions for fear of sounding stupid.

During an argument, I am sometimes afraid that I will get so upset that I will shake all over.

If a famed and respected lecturer makes a comment which I think is incorrect, I will have the audience hear my point of view as well.

I avoid arguing over prices with clerks and salespeople.

When I have done something important or worthwhile, I manage to let others know about it.

I am open and frank about my feelings.

If someone has been spreading false and bad stories about me, I see him or her as soon as possible and “have a talk” about it.

I often have a hard time saying “No.

I tend to bottle up my emotions rather than make a scene.

I complain about poor service in a restaurant and elsewhere.

When I am given a compliment, I sometimes just don’t know what to say

If a couple near me in a theater or at a lecture were conversing rather loudly, I would ask them to be quiet or to take their conversation elsewhere

Anyone attempting to push ahead of me in a line is in for a good battle.

I am quick to express an opinion.

There are times when I just can’t say anything.